There is nothing that sparks more interest in people then getting the inside scoop on the good, the bad and the ugly for other people. Unfortunately that light is being cast right now on Jesse James and Sandra Bullock.
I will not attempt to prove whether he has or has not cheated on her but instead show you how information can be skewed based on perceptions- how our brains can make leaps in logic.
Here are some of the leaps I am hearing people do:
1. He cheated on her, he wears tattoos, therefore an indication of cheating is the fast paced live of tattoos.
2. His second wife was a porn star- proof the guy has more raunchy taste and Sandra is his exception.
3. All the women coming forward have tattoos, and tattoo people are daredevils so it is proof that he did have the affairs
4. He has been married twice before, proof he can't be true.
All of these have elements of facts and lots of opinion that is being put together to become fact based.
So here is all we do know:
1. He has been married twice before and both marriages ended in divorce.
2. He does like fast cars and tattoos.
3. At least one of his previous marriages ended due to affairs he had, so he does have knowledge of how to conduct them.
Those are the only facts we have now, and the rest we need to see played out. What you want to avoid is jumping to generalizations based on some facts.
The hardest thing in business is to stay focused on the facts and not be swayed by opinion. It is easy to say, "Joe didn't get that report in on time therefore Joe is always last." There you have fact "he didn't get the report in on time" and then move to opinion "Joe is always late." Good critical thinkers know when to listen to the facts, weed out the assumptions and opinions, and when to act on what they know.
For now I wish them best of luck in sorting things out and if it is true, then, in my opinion, he needs figure out why he needs the element of risk to feel alive.
Friday, March 26, 2010
Thursday, March 25, 2010
Resilence: How resilient are you?
My Grandpa is 96 years old.
Just imagine in his lifetime what he has lived through:
He has lived through the first cars. He saw when America was the number one car seller to having America displaced by foreign cars.
He has lived through World War II, Vietnam and Desert Storm. So he has seen how the news covered and delivered updates on the war after the fact and then Desert Storm when we were right there with the troops.
He has lived through the small Mom and Pop grocery stores to the big chains we have today.
He has lived through the traditional "treat a woman like a lady" to the women's movement "I can get my own door, thank you."
He has seen the telephone go from being a clunky desk object to being a cell phone you put in your pocket.
He saw Kodak almost disappear as we went from film to digital prints.
He saw games move from board games to electronic pong to the Wii.
He has been resilient. He has had to change continuously. Never once have I seen him complain about the changes or regress to saying what they had was better.
No, instead he says, "Will you look at that? Isn't that amazing?"
You see resilience is attitude. What is your attitude?
More on attitude by Anne Warfield
Just imagine in his lifetime what he has lived through:
He has lived through the first cars. He saw when America was the number one car seller to having America displaced by foreign cars.
He has lived through World War II, Vietnam and Desert Storm. So he has seen how the news covered and delivered updates on the war after the fact and then Desert Storm when we were right there with the troops.
He has lived through the small Mom and Pop grocery stores to the big chains we have today.
He has lived through the traditional "treat a woman like a lady" to the women's movement "I can get my own door, thank you."
He has seen the telephone go from being a clunky desk object to being a cell phone you put in your pocket.
He saw Kodak almost disappear as we went from film to digital prints.
He saw games move from board games to electronic pong to the Wii.
He has been resilient. He has had to change continuously. Never once have I seen him complain about the changes or regress to saying what they had was better.
No, instead he says, "Will you look at that? Isn't that amazing?"
You see resilience is attitude. What is your attitude?
More on attitude by Anne Warfield
What Does President Obama's Hands Say?
Often with leaders it is not what they say, but rather, what their body language says that tells the real story.
I find that President Obama's hands are very revealing. Go back and look at his last State of the Union address and you will find the following:
1. When he is expressing an idea that is an ideal but doesn't have a concrete plan behind it, he uses open palms while he talks.
2. When he has firm plans that are in place he touches his thumb and pointer finger together making a small circle.
3. When he has plans but they have not come together completely he puts his thumb half way down his pointer finger making a smaller or flattened circle.
4. When we wants an idea accepted but he is getting massive push back, he laces his fingers together and pounds them up and down to make his point.
So watch his hands in further speeches to see how ideal or how concrete his path and thoughts are!
More on body language by Anne Warfield
I find that President Obama's hands are very revealing. Go back and look at his last State of the Union address and you will find the following:
1. When he is expressing an idea that is an ideal but doesn't have a concrete plan behind it, he uses open palms while he talks.
2. When he has firm plans that are in place he touches his thumb and pointer finger together making a small circle.
3. When he has plans but they have not come together completely he puts his thumb half way down his pointer finger making a smaller or flattened circle.
4. When we wants an idea accepted but he is getting massive push back, he laces his fingers together and pounds them up and down to make his point.
So watch his hands in further speeches to see how ideal or how concrete his path and thoughts are!
More on body language by Anne Warfield
Thursday, March 11, 2010
Why Strategic Planning May Get You To The Wrong Place
You have your entire trip planned out including what museums you will go to, when you will go to them, and even your map with the route marked out. Being that prepared is what Strategic Planning is about. It is making sure you have what you need to get from Point A to Point Z.
Now the problem occurs when you have all of that planned out for Boston and you are actually in Los Angeles. It doesn't matter how good the strategic plan is since it doesn't take in to account one of the major stumbling blocks right up front. It requires Strategic Thinking-looking at the problem or challenge from a holistic approach- to happen FIRST before Strategic Planning is effective.
I bring this up because many companies today are training their leaders on Strategic Planning and mistakenly thinking that means they are elevating the leader's thinking process. In reality you are giving them a tool that will only be as useful as the base of thinking it rests on.
So how good is your team's thinking? If they are like most managers, they actually immediately move to solving a problem rather than thinking through the problem. This leads to a constant stop-start action at your company where people are constantly moving but nothing is getting done.
As Einstein said, "You can't solve a problem from the same level of thinking that created it."
In today's economy it requires you to use Critical Thinking skills in order to be more strategic in what you do, how you do it and how you create action in others. It requires leaders to move from training people on what to do to showing them how to think.
The only asset your team will bring to every meeting is their brain. Do you know how to tap in to all it's richness? Or are you sitting with Boston maps while you are in Los Angeles?
More on Strategic Thinking by Anne Warfield
Now the problem occurs when you have all of that planned out for Boston and you are actually in Los Angeles. It doesn't matter how good the strategic plan is since it doesn't take in to account one of the major stumbling blocks right up front. It requires Strategic Thinking-looking at the problem or challenge from a holistic approach- to happen FIRST before Strategic Planning is effective.
I bring this up because many companies today are training their leaders on Strategic Planning and mistakenly thinking that means they are elevating the leader's thinking process. In reality you are giving them a tool that will only be as useful as the base of thinking it rests on.
So how good is your team's thinking? If they are like most managers, they actually immediately move to solving a problem rather than thinking through the problem. This leads to a constant stop-start action at your company where people are constantly moving but nothing is getting done.
As Einstein said, "You can't solve a problem from the same level of thinking that created it."
In today's economy it requires you to use Critical Thinking skills in order to be more strategic in what you do, how you do it and how you create action in others. It requires leaders to move from training people on what to do to showing them how to think.
The only asset your team will bring to every meeting is their brain. Do you know how to tap in to all it's richness? Or are you sitting with Boston maps while you are in Los Angeles?
More on Strategic Thinking by Anne Warfield
Wednesday, March 10, 2010
Power vs. Force: Use OutcomeThinking® to Unleash Your Personal Power!
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Monday, February 22, 2010
How to Use Outcome Thinking to Increase Your Luck
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How to Use Outcome Thinking® to Increase YOUR Luck!
You will learn:
1. the four things lucky people do
2. how to persevere in achieving goals
3. what steps to take to attract good luck
We will share with you how to tap in to and access the greatest power you have using Outcome Thinking®. You will see what changes you need to put in place to make sure that you accomplish what you want in 2010.
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You will learn:
1. the four things lucky people do
2. how to persevere in achieving goals
3. what steps to take to attract good luck
We will share with you how to tap in to and access the greatest power you have using Outcome Thinking®. You will see what changes you need to put in place to make sure that you accomplish what you want in 2010.
Join us for this introspective and engaging webinar to get your key to unlock your luck.
Take 30 seconds to RSVP for this “NO-COST WEBINAR” on Thursday March 4 at 1:00 cst.
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Friday, January 29, 2010
A Snapshot of Brillance: What's Yours?
If you are a photographer and you want to grow your business, how do you do it?
Most likely you thought of the typical marketing ideas of advertising, tweeting, or maybe even blogging on how to ensure you get great pictures. All of those are good ideas but I saw one the other day that was absolutely brilliant in its simplicity.
My girlfriend had pictures of her son taken. When she picked up her pictures the photographer handed her 100 business cards that had on the front- the photographers website and phone number as well as a picture of my friend's baby, the back was a full picture of my friend's baby crawling.
There are six reasons this is brilliant:
1. Allows parents to pass out pictures of their child without buying extra expensive prints.
2. They are small and easy to carry around
3. Friends are likely to keep the card as it has a picture of the friend's baby on it. Hence better chance they will call down the road.
4. Every person who gets a card feels it is "customized" and relevant to them because the picture on it is someone they know. Thus the card suddenly has "character."
5. The parents are proud to hand them out because it has their child's picture on it
6. It eliminates the "who took these pictures" attempt at referrals and promotes the photographer without a word spoken
Now you have feel good energy around the handing out of the cards as well as the receiving of the card.
Looking at this example, ask what you can do in your business to generate this same goodwill. What can you do that clients will hold on to? What can you do that clients will want to distribute for you?
Now I realize not all our businesses lend toward the cute idea this photographer has done but I would bet if you think on it, you can come up with something equally as brilliant. So what have you done that has made you or your business stand out?
More on creating a positive impression by Anne Warfield
Most likely you thought of the typical marketing ideas of advertising, tweeting, or maybe even blogging on how to ensure you get great pictures. All of those are good ideas but I saw one the other day that was absolutely brilliant in its simplicity.
My girlfriend had pictures of her son taken. When she picked up her pictures the photographer handed her 100 business cards that had on the front- the photographers website and phone number as well as a picture of my friend's baby, the back was a full picture of my friend's baby crawling.
There are six reasons this is brilliant:
1. Allows parents to pass out pictures of their child without buying extra expensive prints.
2. They are small and easy to carry around
3. Friends are likely to keep the card as it has a picture of the friend's baby on it. Hence better chance they will call down the road.
4. Every person who gets a card feels it is "customized" and relevant to them because the picture on it is someone they know. Thus the card suddenly has "character."
5. The parents are proud to hand them out because it has their child's picture on it
6. It eliminates the "who took these pictures" attempt at referrals and promotes the photographer without a word spoken
Now you have feel good energy around the handing out of the cards as well as the receiving of the card.
Looking at this example, ask what you can do in your business to generate this same goodwill. What can you do that clients will hold on to? What can you do that clients will want to distribute for you?
Now I realize not all our businesses lend toward the cute idea this photographer has done but I would bet if you think on it, you can come up with something equally as brilliant. So what have you done that has made you or your business stand out?
More on creating a positive impression by Anne Warfield
President Obama - State of the Union - Body Language Insights
Anne Warfield shares her insights on President Obama's body language during the State of the Union Address:
When is Right Wrong?
I am a fan of the show Bones. I love watching the completely analytical mind of Bones going up against the "feel it in your gut" thinking of Booth.
In last night's show Booth did a background check on his brother's girlfriend. Why? Because he believes his brother often doesn't think through his decisions well so Booth wanted to make sure this woman was good for his brother. He felt he was right in what he did.
Bones, trying to get him to see the error in his thinking said a classical line, "I don't know if you were wrong, but I fail to see the point of being right."
Take a moment to re-read that line. It is profound in its simplicity. Many times being wrong or right is not the point. The outcome you are going after can often be totally lost because you are focusing on whether you are wrong or right (an either/or thinking) versus focusing on the outcome (an "and" thinking).
For your OT Journal, go back and look at how many times you go for being "right" versus going for the outcome. Now thinking about that, what would you need to change in your thinking to get to the outcome versus being right? How would that have impacted the situation?
If you don't have an OT Journal, email us at contact@imp.us.com and put "Blog OT Journal Intentions" in the email and we will send you a free downloadable journal.
Anne Warfield
In last night's show Booth did a background check on his brother's girlfriend. Why? Because he believes his brother often doesn't think through his decisions well so Booth wanted to make sure this woman was good for his brother. He felt he was right in what he did.
Bones, trying to get him to see the error in his thinking said a classical line, "I don't know if you were wrong, but I fail to see the point of being right."
Take a moment to re-read that line. It is profound in its simplicity. Many times being wrong or right is not the point. The outcome you are going after can often be totally lost because you are focusing on whether you are wrong or right (an either/or thinking) versus focusing on the outcome (an "and" thinking).
For your OT Journal, go back and look at how many times you go for being "right" versus going for the outcome. Now thinking about that, what would you need to change in your thinking to get to the outcome versus being right? How would that have impacted the situation?
If you don't have an OT Journal, email us at contact@imp.us.com and put "Blog OT Journal Intentions" in the email and we will send you a free downloadable journal.
Anne Warfield
Conan & Leno: A Story in Brass vs Class
What you say outloud is just a reflection to the world of how you think of the world and yourself. So if I cut other people down when I talk, I am telling you I don't value myself or others. If I look for the good in others when I talk I am showing you that I see the world as good and my brain looks for the good in others. What you say reflects your thinking, so what is yours saying?
I watched Conan's last two shows to see how he would handle coming off the air. Remember this is a spot he fought 5 years for. He was the one that went to NBC and said he wanted to be promised Leno's spot or he was going to walk from his contract.
So NBC gave him the spot. They went to Leno and said it was time to retire. Leno went off the air gracefully without harsh digs on NBC or on Conan. Instead he focused on the opportunities he was going to have and poked fun at how the ending happened. He showed all of us that he wasn't happy with the decision but he was settled with it and he would come out on top again. He displayed Class.
Conan's exit was bitter. He took huge digs at NBC, did expensive stunts (costing millions of dollars), and basically said that NBC screwed him over. Remember, this is a guy that went to NBC and told them he could handle the Tonight Show and then when he couldn't handle it, instead of owning that, he fought back and said it was NBC's fault. That is Brass.
Leno's actions showed that his brain automatically moves to making the best of a situation by being the best he can. Conan's actions showed that he will move to blaming others when things go wrong rather than owning what he needs to change or modify to make things better.
Which employee would you want? Which employee are you?
Every day your words and action demonstrate your THINKING. So, for those of you following in your Outcome Thinking Intentions Journal, go back and look at some of the thinking you demonstrated. What does it say about you and your view of the world? If it is not what you want start changing it today.
PS. If you don't have a OT Journal, see our previous blog to see how to get your hands on a free journal.
Anne Warfield
I watched Conan's last two shows to see how he would handle coming off the air. Remember this is a spot he fought 5 years for. He was the one that went to NBC and said he wanted to be promised Leno's spot or he was going to walk from his contract.
So NBC gave him the spot. They went to Leno and said it was time to retire. Leno went off the air gracefully without harsh digs on NBC or on Conan. Instead he focused on the opportunities he was going to have and poked fun at how the ending happened. He showed all of us that he wasn't happy with the decision but he was settled with it and he would come out on top again. He displayed Class.
Conan's exit was bitter. He took huge digs at NBC, did expensive stunts (costing millions of dollars), and basically said that NBC screwed him over. Remember, this is a guy that went to NBC and told them he could handle the Tonight Show and then when he couldn't handle it, instead of owning that, he fought back and said it was NBC's fault. That is Brass.
Leno's actions showed that his brain automatically moves to making the best of a situation by being the best he can. Conan's actions showed that he will move to blaming others when things go wrong rather than owning what he needs to change or modify to make things better.
Which employee would you want? Which employee are you?
Every day your words and action demonstrate your THINKING. So, for those of you following in your Outcome Thinking Intentions Journal, go back and look at some of the thinking you demonstrated. What does it say about you and your view of the world? If it is not what you want start changing it today.
PS. If you don't have a OT Journal, see our previous blog to see how to get your hands on a free journal.
Anne Warfield
Monday, January 25, 2010
New Webinar: How to Use Outcome Thinking® to Increase YOUR Luck!
1. the four things lucky people do
2. how to persevere in achieving goals
3. what steps to take to attract good luck
We will share with you how to tap in to and access the greatest power you have using Outcome Thinking®. You will see what changes you need to put in place to make sure that you accomplish what you want in 2010.
Join us for this introspective and engaging webinar to get your key to unlock your luck.
Take 30 seconds to RSVP for this “NO-COST WEBINAR” on Thursday March 4 at 1:00 cst.
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Friday, January 22, 2010
Outcome Thinking & Intentions
Yesterday I did a Webinar on the The Scientific Proof behind the Hocus Pocus of Thoughts and Intentions. If you weren't able to tune in, you can go purchase a copy on the website. Here I am going to tie activities and things y0u can do to expand your thinking and analyze the impact your thoughts have on meetings, discussions and your daily life. This will allow you to make your own conclusion.
You may also wish to get your hands on our Outcome Thinking & Intentions journal. Just email us at contact@imp.us.com and put Blog OT Journal in the subject line and we will send you a free downloadable journal.
In studying the impact your thoughts have on actual situations I had you start writing down what your THOUGHTS are and then what results you saw happen. This is important because there is tremendous power in what is not said. Matter-of-fact, in some people this comes out in expressive body language that tells you what they are thinking but not saying.
If you want to stop giving away tell-tell signs you need to first learn to manage your thinking. That is one of the beauties of Outcome Thinking- it shows you how to flip your brain so you automatically starting going to the offense side of thinking rather than the defense side of thinking.
So between now and my next blog, I just want you to observe your thoughts and what happens. Blog back and let us know what you thought and what happened. You will be your own Intention Experiment.
My first test on this was rather simple. I said I was going to change my "parking Karma." In my family we used to joke that I always ended up with the crappy parking spaces. So I simply started to say that I would get a front row spot. The amazing thing is that in 6 months I have only had ONE parking spot that wasn't front row! Every time I land a front row spot and no, I am not circling the parking ramp waiting for a spot. I drive in confidently thinking, "where is my front open spot?" and then there it is!
If you have a co-worker you are having trouble with try to just send positive thoughts about that person out and see how it changes their interaction with you.
Anne Warfield
You may also wish to get your hands on our Outcome Thinking & Intentions journal. Just email us at contact@imp.us.com and put Blog OT Journal in the subject line and we will send you a free downloadable journal.
In studying the impact your thoughts have on actual situations I had you start writing down what your THOUGHTS are and then what results you saw happen. This is important because there is tremendous power in what is not said. Matter-of-fact, in some people this comes out in expressive body language that tells you what they are thinking but not saying.
If you want to stop giving away tell-tell signs you need to first learn to manage your thinking. That is one of the beauties of Outcome Thinking- it shows you how to flip your brain so you automatically starting going to the offense side of thinking rather than the defense side of thinking.
So between now and my next blog, I just want you to observe your thoughts and what happens. Blog back and let us know what you thought and what happened. You will be your own Intention Experiment.
My first test on this was rather simple. I said I was going to change my "parking Karma." In my family we used to joke that I always ended up with the crappy parking spaces. So I simply started to say that I would get a front row spot. The amazing thing is that in 6 months I have only had ONE parking spot that wasn't front row! Every time I land a front row spot and no, I am not circling the parking ramp waiting for a spot. I drive in confidently thinking, "where is my front open spot?" and then there it is!
If you have a co-worker you are having trouble with try to just send positive thoughts about that person out and see how it changes their interaction with you.
Anne Warfield
Friday, January 15, 2010
Learn the Scientific Proof to the Hocus Pocus About Thoughts & Intentions!
What is the link between intention, crime and muscles?
Can you alone, impact change in your department, your company?
We will share with you how to tap in to and access the greatest power you have using Outcome Thinking®.
You will see what changes you need to put in place to make sure that you accomplish what you want in 2010.
Join us for this introspective and engaging webinar to get your key to unlock your opportunities.
Take 30 seconds to RSVP for this “NO-COST WEBINAR” on Thursday January 21 at 1:00 cst.
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Space is limited.
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Can you alone, impact change in your department, your company?
We will share with you how to tap in to and access the greatest power you have using Outcome Thinking®.
You will see what changes you need to put in place to make sure that you accomplish what you want in 2010.
Join us for this introspective and engaging webinar to get your key to unlock your opportunities.
Take 30 seconds to RSVP for this “NO-COST WEBINAR” on Thursday January 21 at 1:00 cst.
PS: Feel free to pass this invitation on to your family, friends for this one-of-a-kind-webinar experience.
Space is limited.
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